What Does It Really Means to be a Caregiver?

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November has been deemed the month we openly celebrate National Family Caregivers according to the Caregiver Action Network. This annual celebration of those that assume this role begin 1994. The theme chosen this year by the Caregiver Action Network is “Caregiving Around the Clock.” Former President Barack Obama spoke of the role of caregivers. He […]

How Humor Can Help Us as Caregivers

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We usually don’t use the words humor and caregiving in the same sentence. One could easily argue that caregiving is not very funny. However, humor can be a secret and wonderful coping mechanism to rely on at times when laughter does not seem like an option. I was my father’s caregiver and I became concerned […]

When Career and Caregiving Collide

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  When MSNBC and NBC News anchor Richard Lui’s 80-year-old father, Stephen, gave his traditional opening prayer at the Lui clan’s annual Christmas dinner in 2013, the blessing was noticeably different from those he’d offered before. The prayer was shorter than usual, lacking his typical ceremonial flair. Stephen, a Presbyterian pastor, read part of the prayer verbatim […]

5 Ways to Reframe the Way You See Your Caregiving Role

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Caregiving is difficult but it doesn’t necessarily have to be a burden if you don’t let it.  We have caregivers with multiple ways of looking at their experience in our private Facebook support group. This post from Sixty and Me by Anthony Cirillo, shares 5 tips for reframing your caregiving experience into an opportunity rather […]

Tips for Calming Anger in Those who Suffer from Dementia

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Caregiver’s guide: How to control and calm down dementia patients when they are angry. By guest blogger, Erica Silva Most of us think that the only sign of dementia is when an aged individual finds it hard to remember information. However, the behavioral changes associated with the disease are vast and not limited to forgetfulness […]

Caregivers Can “Be Impulsive” Too!

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One in seven people entering the hospital needs a blood transfusion. You would think that people admitted to the hospital after an accident would be the ones that would require blood the most often, but that’s not true.  Actually, people who receive the most blood include those who are being treated for cancer, undergoing orthopedic […]

How to Assess if the Seniors in Your Life Should Stop Driving

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My father was in his eighties and still driving. I had driven with him and knew he was driving way below the speed limit. I also knew he was not as aware of his environment as he should be. It was the kind of situation where I was afraid he would be the cause of […]

Caregivers: How to Maintain your Health Despite this Taxing Job

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  Being a caregiver has its rewards, but it can certainly take its toll on someone’s body and mind.   Between the mental and physical strains, caregivers report such issues as insomnia, poor eating habits, a failure to take care of their own physical health whether that means not getting enough regular exercise or not taking […]

How To Be Your Parent’s Caregiver

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  There are many people who are currently caregivers for their parents. The National Alliance for Caregiving reports “over 65.7 million Americans currently provide care for a family member or loved. Thirty Six percent of them are caring for an elderly parent.” It is a challenging transition when the person who took care of you […]

3 Ways to Help Seniors Live a Happier Life

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You’ve probably watched more than a fair share of TV shows or movies with the grumpy old senior acting as comedy relief. In real life, however, a sour senior isn’t so funny. If you have an aging parent or grandparent that is longing for the good old days, lonely or frustrated with their inability to perform […]

Growth and Lessons Learned from Being My Wife’s Caregiver

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  While my wife Rebecca lay in her hospital bed, the sterile feel of the hospital room and the alarms from her ventilator had become all too familiar. The shock had worn off from New Year’s Eve when they placed her in a chemically induced coma due to respiratory failure from cystic fibrosis. I would sit […]

8,760 Hours – What Will You DO With Them This Year?

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How many times in 2016 did you find yourself saying “I don’t have time” whether it was time to read a book, prepare healthy meals, exercise, or visit with a friend? There are approximately 8,760 hours in a non-leap year. Reading that, it makes me cringe a bit to think that with that number of […]

3 Things I Learned About Aging While Serving as My Father’s Caregiver

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My father passed away almost 2 years ago at age 97. Much to our chagrin, while in his eighties he was still climbing on his roof to clean the gutters and he shoveled snow. I suddenly found myself in the role of caregiver when he unexpectedly caught pneumonia at age 96. Life-threatening complications occurred from […]

Taking Care of Yourself as You Assume the Role of a Caregiver

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According to AARP and the National Caregiver Alliance , the average caregiver is a 49 year old woman caring for a 69 year old relative. In addition to being a caregiver she is married with her own children and is working. The study says the caregiving role lasts an average of 4 years. Being a caregiver […]

Caregiving, Aging and Make-Up Application – Oh My!

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I haven’t worn much make-up for a very long time – usually, just mascara, a bit of blush and some lip gloss, because I rarely went anywhere “important”.  But now that I have joined a group of woman, I’m feeling compelled to wear a bit more again. I had heard that as we age, we […]

Thoughts on Turning 60

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  I turned 60 this past year and for the first time in my life, I felt OLD. When I turned 50, I was happy… happy to leave behind the constant worrying about appearance, and trying to impress everyone. I felt mature… but not old. This year I felt old. I can’t say it was […]

Come Into My Room and Sit With Me – a poem by Peggy Raulie

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Peggy wrote this poem some years ago when she realized that visitors to loved-ones in various stages of decline did not really know what to talk about with them. Lots of people lose touch with their friends or family when they become ill or infirmed. mostly because they just don’t know what to say. Come […]

Plan Ahead Now for the Next Few Months

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It’s hard to believe it’s already October. Every month will now bring occasions to plan for and celebrate. Frankly, I just about hyperventilate when I read the posts on Facebook about how many Mondays until Christmas! I really don’t want to hear that! What I want to discuss is preparing for the holidays, but not […]