Pressured to Believe

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After my mother’s multiple sclerosis (MS) crippled her to the point of dependency on a wheelchair, one of the things she desired was supernatural healing. My father shared his plight with a few of his customers (he owned a retail business) and came upon one with advice. She told him about Kathryn Kuhlman, a spiritual […]

How Humor Can Help Us as Caregivers

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We usually don’t use the words humor and caregiving in the same sentence. One could easily argue that caregiving is not very funny. However, humor can be a secret and wonderful coping mechanism to rely on at times when laughter does not seem like an option. I was my father’s caregiver and I became concerned […]

When a Parent Wants to Die

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After a day of classes at a nearby college, I rode the city bus home to where I lived with my parents. I turned the key in the lock and walked through the front door, clutching my books. Mom’s authoritative voice rang from the living room, “Will you bring me a razor blade?” She reclined […]

11 Ways to Help People Who Have Dementia but Don’t Realize it

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Being a caregiver for someone who has a memory deficit can be extremely challenging. It becomes even more difficult when that person is unaware of their dementia or any other limitations associated with it. Dementia can directly impact a person’s ability to follow directions, can compromise their safety,  impedes problem-solving and abstract reasoning. It can […]

Important Tips When Caring for a Spouse or Partner

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The relationship between every couple is unique.  There are moments when you rely on each other for comfort and support. Responsibilities are shared and your daily routine becomes carved out and the norm. When a catastrophic illness occurs these boundaries and norms are upended and these norms no longer apply.  A 2015 report released by […]

Lost Control

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When I was little, my mother would make excuses for the A’s on my report card as though I hadn’t earned them. I explained to a friend not long ago that because of this, after third grade I stopped showing the grade report to my mother. Being a mother herself, this appalled my friend. “Didn’t […]

How to Assess if the Seniors in Your Life Should Stop Driving

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My father was in his eighties and still driving. I had driven with him and knew he was driving way below the speed limit. I also knew he was not as aware of his environment as he should be. It was the kind of situation where I was afraid he would be the cause of […]

How To Be Your Parent’s Caregiver

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  There are many people who are currently caregivers for their parents. The National Alliance for Caregiving reports “over 65.7 million Americans currently provide care for a family member or loved. Thirty Six percent of them are caring for an elderly parent.” It is a challenging transition when the person who took care of you […]

Coping With Agitation and Aggression as a Caregiver

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One of the most challenging aspects of caregiving is managing agitation or aggression from the person you are taking care of. These are two distinctly different behaviors. Agitation stems from anxiety, fear, or confusion. It is a restless state where it is difficult to calm down. Aggression refers to behaviors that include unrestrained physical or […]

Caregivers Advocating for Change

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Since becoming a caregiver, you may have discovered you have a passionate dislike for the disease or condition that caused you to become a caregiver. No disease is “liked” but generally they aren’t on our radar until there is a reason for it to be there. I would make a donation to a cause if […]

How to Assess When Your Aging Loved Ones May Be at Risk?

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There may come a time when the ability to independently walk, dress, cook, or bathe becomes increasingly challenging for an aging loved one. How do you assess if it is safe for them to remain in their home without any assistance? There are some warning signs to watch for in the home that may indicate […]

8,760 Hours – What Will You DO With Them This Year?

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How many times in 2016 did you find yourself saying “I don’t have time” whether it was time to read a book, prepare healthy meals, exercise, or visit with a friend? There are approximately 8,760 hours in a non-leap year. Reading that, it makes me cringe a bit to think that with that number of […]

3 Things I Learned About Aging While Serving as My Father’s Caregiver

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My father passed away almost 2 years ago at age 97. Much to our chagrin, while in his eighties he was still climbing on his roof to clean the gutters and he shoveled snow. I suddenly found myself in the role of caregiver when he unexpectedly caught pneumonia at age 96. Life-threatening complications occurred from […]

Product Review: FreshAlarm-5 Alarm Voice Timer

FreshAlarm-5 Alarm Voice Timer

How can you help someone and yet maintain their independence, and yours? This was a question I faced one day when my husband misunderstood the time and showed up for a class early. The next day he asked me to stay home to make sure he left on time for an appointment, not early or […]

Taking Care of You Too!

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Happy National Family Caregivers Month! The theme for the month this year is “Take Care to Give Care.” Part of taking care of yourself involves feeling good about yourself and your appearance. This can be hard! As caregivers, we may not get out to social gatherings and fun events constantly, but we do go out […]

Plan Ahead Now for the Next Few Months

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It’s hard to believe it’s already October. Every month will now bring occasions to plan for and celebrate. Frankly, I just about hyperventilate when I read the posts on Facebook about how many Mondays until Christmas! I really don’t want to hear that! What I want to discuss is preparing for the holidays, but not […]

New Hope for Alzheimer’s Patients and LifestyleTips to Protect Your Brain

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August was an exciting month in terms of releasing new information on fighting Alzheimer’s disease.  ABC news reported on a “new class of medication called gamma-secretase modulators.” This medicine focuses on altering beta amyloid plaque that produces Alzheimer’s symptoms. Clinical trials are underway and offering very positive results. The August 22, 2016 issue of Time Magazine […]

Changing Your Perspective on Caregiving

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Have you ever thought that your life is so much worse than everyone else’s or that other people have all the luck? Maybe you’re more the type who thinks “I can’t” whenever faced with a challenge. You may think that life has dealt you a bad hand, but how you play those cards is up […]